and Daisies and Lollypops

outincolumbus.com and www.gay.com. These sites, while primarily for gay and lesbians, also had a pretty large contingent of transgendered folks and their admirers. I also set up a Yahoo.com profile to attract personal messages from admirers. I would do this at different times of the day, but usually late at night due to my work schedule. Time of day definitely mattered when it came to the people I ran into.

To simplify things, I will break down these people into several categories. The first group are not into real-life encounters with transgendered women, they are simply turned on by the idea of a woman with male organs. I call these people the "lurkers", as they were not, for the most part, looking for anything other than fun on the Internet. A post-op woman is of no interest to them, because they are for all intents and purposes a female. A good number of them are also involved in cross dressing behavior on their own, as I discovered by having conversations with people with screen names such as "TammyCD" and "GuyInSkirt". They are also the most secretive of everyone I spoke to, and a good number of them were married or involved in long term relationships. They were exclusively male, and were for the most part only interested in cyber-sex.

The second group were what I call the fetishists. These people were attracted to the idea of a woman with male organs, possibly to explore their own sexuality. Like the lurkers, their primary interests were sexual, and were mostly into brief encounters with transgendered people. Some of these people were also married or in long term relationships with genetic women, but they had been involved with transgendered women in the past, and still have that fetish. These people were much nicer than the lurkers, on the whole, and they were up-front about what they wanted. And of course, they never called back. As a general rule, they were also not interested in post-op women. One fetishist put it to me this way "Why do that when I can have a 'real' woman?"